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Deeper Meaning Behind Being Mindful of the Present Moment

I have learned an important lesson over the last several years.  Denial runs deep in our veins.  For some reason we are clearly able to see issues that other people hold but are  unable to acknowledge those same issues in ourselves.  We insist on perceiving the world through our own distorted lens. It does not matter a hill of beans what the reality of the situation is.

There is no question about it. Denial runs deep in everyone’s veins.  We deny – and I’m holding my hand up here – that life is very fragile indeed.  I think to myself,

“I’ve got many years to live. I’m in a strong body. I’m healthy. I’m good to go for years and years.”

The truth of the matter is that this is a form of denial.  There are bacterial infections out there that I may be exposed to and unable to release. There are delicate balances of potassium and magnesium in my body that must be maintained for life to be sustained. These could spin out of balance anytime.

There are certain systems in our body that maintain the sleep cycle. It could be that when driving I will slip off to sleep and veer off the road. Who knows what might happen to anyone in the future?

I’m not intending to be pessimistic or dire in any sense of the word.  What I’m really doing with this mindfulness challenge, for myself and for you is to respect the magical mystery of each and every moment. When we do just that, each moment is enriched immeasurably.

We can all continue to have conversations with others when we are only partially present. When we choose to switch the habit of listening partially and haphazardly to being fully and completely present, we become fully engaged with the present moment. We connect to the other person with our heart and soul.

When we part, we know that we have made a profound encounter and connection.  The experience of being present in the moment taps into the juice of our life force. It feeds our energy and enthusiasm for life

The Japanese honor a very special tradition. When a person leaves, whether through walking or through a car or through a train or plane, the person waving them goodbye waits until the car or the plane or the person has disappeared. Why? This may be the last time they will ever see that individual.  It is a divine ritual for all of us to adopt whether we are Japanese or not!

The chant quoted below is taken from a Zen monastery of Jan Bays, who is a medical doctor and author of Mindful Eating as well as How to Train a Wild Elephant. I invite you to say it every day this week.

“May I respectfully remind you life and death are of supreme importance. 

Time swiftly passes by and opportunity is lost. 

When this day is past, our days of life will be decreased by one. 

Each of you should strive to awaken. 

Awaken!  Take heed. Do not squander our life.”

Robert

© Parkinsons Recovery

How to be Mindful of the Present Moment

I have a challenge for you this week that I have been practicing now for some time. My own experience has been profound. Each and every encounter that you have with another individual, whether it is –

  • Over the phone
  • Through an email exchange
  • During a chat on the internet
  • In person

Think to yourself –

“There is a possibly this person may not be alive tomorrow.” 

Let me be perfectly clear here. You are certainly not wishing that the person will die. Rather, you are honoring the reality that life is very fragile and very temporary. I have never met a person who is 140 years old.

You and I well know that we have friends and acquaintances who were alive and perfectly healthy one day. The following day they died from an entirely unexpected turn of events; automobile accidents, traumas, unexpected illnesses. It happens.

It happens to those who are one-day-old. It happens to those who are 100-years-old.  Death comes to all living entities; animals, humans, everyone.  We do not know when death will be knocking at our own door, but we can be assured it will pay us a visit eventually.

Recognizing this possibility enriches each and every encounter we have with another person.  How many of you have experienced the following thought sequence?  A family member or a treasured friend dies unexpectedly.  You are very saddened. You are grieving.  Some of your thoughts take the following form.

“The last time I saw my friend was three weeks ago.  There were so many things I wish I had told them.  I didn’t really have time for them then because I was rushing off to another appointment.  They wanted to hang out but I didn’t have the time the last time I saw them alive. Oh how I wish I had had an opportunity once again to have that encounter. I would do it differently.” 

I have had thoughts just like that in my life.  Thoughts of regret and guilt will not surface when we are present and mindful of the present moment. The realization that it is possible (though of course not probable) that our friends and family may not be alive tomorrow is the thought that provides a powerful inventive to live in the present rather than being preoccupied with popping off to the next appointment.

The acknowledgment that every living being dies enriches the practice of mindful attention to each and every moment, to each and every encounter.  It enriches the loveliness of being alive in a body.

To summarize, with each and every encounter – whether it comes through email correspondence, a telephone conversation or face-to-face encounters – think to yourself –

“This person may not be alive tomorrow. We can never really know what the future has in store for anyone.”

Then, initiate the interaction.  Notice how you feel about the exchange which ensues.  Speaking for myself, all of my encounters became richer and more meaningful.

Why is that?  I am not anticipating the future. Rather. I am living in the present moment, mindful that whatever thoughts I have and whatever feelings I may experience need to be expressed now. There may be no tomorrow to say what I had thought about saying yesterday but did not have enough time.

Robert

© Parkinsons Recovery